When I talk with my soul cliënts or soul sisters, the topic of energetic boundaries & core values is coming up very often.
In the whole setting boundaries is something very crucial for your energy.
You set boundaries in your life to create sacred space for yourself, on all levels. Strong boundaries create inner peace, and inner peace brings in more loving energy, openness, and flow.
I am guilty if it comes to setting NO healthy boundaries in my life. I was that woman who gave away her time and space just to NOT hurt someone. And I told myself that this was WHO I was. That I had to be there for everyone. When cliënts, friends or random people that I didn’t even know asked me for insight, help you name it. I would be there, giving them what they needed. Regardless of the fact that it drained the heck out of me.
It even came so far, that I was/felt taken advantage of, for my time, willingness to help, my information.
I learned along the way, that saying NO was also okay. I learned that energy balance was so important and that filling my Cup till it overflowed was my intention.
If it doesn’t feel good, DONT DO IT.
Now at the moment, I give zero fucks if someone feels some type of way if I choose to listen to my soul and say NO. Because it doesn’t say anything about me, The universe just uses me as a loving mirror for that person. And the fact that I listen to myself, as an act of self-love is MAGIC.
The beauty in this is that when I GIVE I give from a conscious soul connected space. I give from my heart, from a place of love instead of, fear and restriction.
This feels so freeing!
Energetic boundaries & core values
If you don’t stay true to yourself and boundaries it’s going to have consequences for your energy. This misalignment will cause a whole lot of icky vibes and that’s not what you want.
If someone crosses your boundary, not respecting your boundary it is important that you connect with your core values and act upon it.
for example, a couple of my core values are – Respect, inner peace, acceptance.
One of my boundaries is, that if something doesn’t feel good, I DONT DO IT PERIOD.
This boundary is created from my own core values.
When someone crosses that line by disrespecting me and just tries to force the thing on me anyway’s, I will tell that person, that I’m OUT. I know what drains me, I know what my core values are and my boundaries. I Love myself, and that means, that staying true to myself is nr 1.
Your boundaries are therefore linked to your core values, you don’t have to create a LOT of firm boundaries in your life. That can make you feel restricted and that’s not what we want. You can, for example, created them at the moment, by connecting to the situation/experience and your core values.
Then create the boundary in the moment. The more you learn to know and love yourself, the better you can create these in the moment. Doing this will have a great consequence for your energetic hygiene.
Staying true to yourself and loving yourself, will create a strong and clean energy field!
Setting the boundaries + Ego mindfucks
I have a few questions + practices for you, so take a pen and paper and stay open to receive more clarity on your core values. And create clear and healthy boundaries in your life.
Core values 101
• What are your core values? Write them down. (min 5)
• Do you feel like you’re living up to them? Why? ‘’Journal on that one’’
• Do you need to let go of some core values and adopt new ones? If yes, write them all down.
Sometimes our core values aren’t aligned with who we are anymore if that’s the case you can create new ones and declare to the universe and your soul that you are living by XXX core values now.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
• Where in your life do you feel that you have to create more loving boundaries for yourself?
• Look at your life as a parent, partner, business owner or work related, family, friends
• Where do you feel drained or stressed?
• In what situation, and how can you shift that energy in creating a loving boundary for yourself?
Journal on this, and write down where you can create more loving boundaries in each area of your life. Link this to your core values.
I know that it can be difficult because your ego comes in and tries to talk you out of it with lots of mindfucks, scary scenarios. And you know, I had the same, and I listened to it in a conscious way. I wanted to know where that came from, I faced that shadow and transmuted it back into my light.
Setting boundaries is a great way to do some shadow work, and I really recommend it!
Things that my ego said to me were:
• You are going to lose this and this person, if you don’t do this anymore.
• People are not going to Like you anymore
• It’s selfish to think about yourself like this
• You are going to lose cliënts
I found these thoughts troubling because they really got to me, so I meditated and journaled on them to get to know the core of it. And yes it was confronting, I had to cry like there was no tomorrow, and I had to reclaim my self-love, self-respect, power, self-acceptance from a whole other level. And when I connected with that energy, nobody could cross the line anymore.
If you want to do some shadow work with this you can journal down everything ‘’shadow vibe’’’ that comes up for you. Connect with your higher self, and react to what you wrote from the shadow space. You will see what happens, your soul will tell you how it really is.
What are your core values? And are you living up to them a lot?
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